Top 150 How To Talk To Anyone Quotes By Leil Lowndes (2023)

1. “If you’re chatting with a lawyer who tells you her profession is maligned, when it comes your turn to speak, say ‘profession’ too.”

2. “Small talk is about putting people at ease. Your unspoken answer to their unspoken question, "How do you like me so far?" must be, "Wow! I really like you.”

3. “If a prospect mentions they had Rice Krispies for breakfast, allude to it later. If in chatting, your boss tells you she wore uncomfortable shoes to work one day, find a way to refer to it on another. If your client mentions he’s a resolute flosser, compliment him at a later date on his discipline.”

4. “DON’T TOUCH A CLICHÈ WITH A TEN-FOOT POLE”

5. “Which gives you warmer feelings? ‘I like your suit’ or ‘You look great in that suit’? ‘That’s a good question’ or ‘You’ve asked a great question’?”

6. Keep good eye contact.

7. great posture, a heads-up look, a confident smile, and a direct gaze. The ideal image for somebody who's a Somebody."

8. “Rehearse being the Super Somebody you want to be ahead of time. SEE yourself walking around with perfect posture, shaking hands, smiling the Flooding Smile, and making great eye contact. HEAR yourself chatting comfortably with everyone. FEEL the pleasure of knowing you are in peak form and everyone is gravitating toward you. VISUALIZE yourself a Super Somebody. Then it all happens automatically.”

9. “A wise politician, when asked if he were for or against Prohibition, answered: If by alcohol, you mean the dangerous drink which destroys families, than I am fully for Prohibition. But if, by alcohol, you mean noble drink which promotes good fellowship and makes every meal a pleasure, then I am against it.”

10. “whenever people meet you, they take an instant mental snapshot. That image of you becomes the data they deal with for a very long time.”

11. “Just sidle up behind the swarm of folks you want to infiltrate and open your ears. Wait for any flimsy excuse and jump in with, ‘Excuse me, I couldn’t help but overhear.’ Will they be taken aback? Momentarily. Will they get over it? Momentarily.”

12. “Big winners speak jobbledygook as a second language. What is jobbledygook? The language of other professions. Why speak it? It makes you sound like an insider. How do you learn it? Simply ask a friend who speaks the lingo of the crowd you’ll be with to teach you a few opening questions. The words are few and the rewards are manifold.”

13. “when meeting someone, our brains are in overdrive. Remember Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar? He said of Cassius, he "has a lean and hungry look . . . he thinks too much . . . such men are dangerous.”

14. “Whenever you go to a gathering, wear or carry something unusual to give people who find you the delightful stranger across the crowded room an excuse to approach. ‘Excuse me, I couldn’t help but notice your…what IS that?’”

15. “Do humanity and yourself a favor. Never, ever, give just a one-sentence response to the question, "Where are you from?" Give the asker some fuel for his tank, some fodder for his trough.”

16. “Do you have a store clerk, junior partner, tailor, mechanic, maitre d’, massage therapist, kids’ teacher — or any other special worker you want special attention from in the future? The surefire way to make them care enough to give you their very best is to send a buttercup to their boss.”

17. “I always try to turn the spotlight on the other person.” The longer you keep it shining away from you, the more interesting he or she finds you.”

18. “When meeting someone, imagine they are an old friend. How sad, the vicissitudes of life tore you two asunder. But, holy mackeral, now the event has reunited you with your long-lost old friend! The joyful experience starts a remarkable chain reaction in your body from the subconscious softening of your eyebrows to the positioning of your toes — and everything in between.”

19. “Humor enriches any conversation. Plan your humor and make it relevant. For example, if you’re going to a meeting on the budget, look up money in a quotation book. In an uptight business meeting, a little levity shows you’re at ease and can break the tension and win the appreciation of all.

20. “Studies show mental rehearsal helps weekend athletes sharpen their golf, their running, whatever their favorite activity is. Experts agree that if you see the pictures, hear the sounds, and feel the movements of your body in your mind before you do the activity, the effect is powerful.”

21. “A compliment one hears is never as exciting as the one he overhears. A priceless way to praise is by tell-a-friend. This way you escape possible suspicion that you are an apple-polishing, bootlicking sycophant trying to win brownie points. You also leave recipients with the happy fantasy that you are telling the world about their greatness.”

22. “When an attractive man wandered our way, Carla flashed her beautiful teeth, turned fully toward him, and said, ‘Hello, come join us.’”

23. “Echoing is a simple linguistic technique that packs a powerful wallop. Listen to the speaker’s arbitrary choice of nouns, verbs, prepositions, adjectives — and echo them back. Hearing their words come out of your mouth creates subliminal rapport. It makes them feel you share their values, attitudes, interests, and experiences.”

24. when meeting someone, our brains are in overdrive. Remember Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar? He said of Cassius, he has a lean and hungry look. . . he thinks too much. . . such men are dangerous."

25. “Before every big purchase, find several vendors — a few to learn from and one to buy from. Armed with a few words of industryese, you’re ready to head for the store where you’re going to buy.”

26. “When we find people with the supernatural powers of perception to recognize our remarkableness, we become addicted to the heady drug of their appreciation.”

27. “Become a carrier of good news and kudos. Whenever you hear something complimentary about someone, fly to them with the compiment. Everyone loves the carrier pigeon of kind thoughts.”

28. “All you need to get started is two good opening art questions and a warning against the most-asked dumb outsider question.”

29. “Visualize a clown iron-jaw bit hanging from the frame of every door you walk through. Take a bite and, with it firmly between your teeth, let it swoop you to the peak of the big top. When you hang by your teeth, every muscle is stretched into perfect posture position.”

30. “Keep your differences a secret and celebrate your similarities instead.”

31. “Just give ’em great posture, a heads-up look, a confident smile, and a direct gaze.’ It’s the ideal image for somebody who’s a Somebody.”

32. “Empathizers can range from ‘I can appreciate you decided to do that’ to ‘That really is exciting’ to ‘Yes, that was the honorable thing to do’ or ‘It’s charming you felt that way.’”

33. “No man would listen to you talk if he didn’t know it was his turn next.”

34. “Whenever you have something in common with someone, the longer you wait to reveal it, the more moved (and impressed) they will be. You emerge as a confident big cat. (P.S. Don’t wait too long to reveal your shared interest or it’ll seem you’re being tricky.)”

35. “Never be left speechless again. Like a parrot, simply repeat the last few words your conversation partner says. That puts the ball right back in their court, an all you have to do is listen.”

36. When you act as though you like someone, you start to really like them.

37. “When you do someone a favor and it’s obvious that ‘he owes you one,’ wait a suitable amount of time before asking him to ‘pay.’ Let him enjoy the fact (or fiction) that you did it out of friendship. Don’t call in your tit for their tat too swiftly.”

38. “Visualization works best when you feel totally relaxed. Only when you have a calm state of mind can you get clear, vivid images. Do your visualization in the quiet of your home or car before leaving for the party or the meeting.”

39. “The instant you are introduced to someone, reward your new acquaintance. Give the warm smile, total-body turn, and undivided attention you would give a tiny tyke who crawled up to your feet and beamed a toothless grin. Pivoting 100% toward the new person shouts, ‘I think you are very, very special.’”

40. “Small talk is not about facts or words. It’s about melody. Small talk is about putting people at ease. It’s about making comforting noises together, like cats purring or groups chanting.”

41. “Don’t be an unconscious ummer. Vocalize complete sentences to show your understanding. Dust your dialogue with phrases like ‘I see what you mean.’ Sprinkle it with sentimental sparklers like ‘That’s a lovely thing to say.’ Your empathy impresses your listeners and encourages them to continue.”

42. “People who are VIPs in their own right (you!) don’t slobber over celebrities. When you’re chatting with one, don’t compliment her work, simply say how much pleasure or insight it’s given you. If you do single out any one of the star’s accomplishments, make sure it’s a recent one, not a memory that’s getting yellow in her scrapbook. If the queen bee has a drone sitting with her, find a way to involve him in the conversation.”

43. “Doorway to Confidence Let every door you walk through remind you to lift your head higher (as though you wanted your hair to brush the top of the doorway.) And throw out your chest (as though you wanted it to go through first.) This technique is especially important entering the conference room, your boss’s office, and everywhere else you want to make a great impression. Turn every doorway into your free physical trainer nudging you to stand taller. Before long, it becomes natural to look like a winner at all times.”

44. “have captured the hearts and conquered the minds of hundreds of others who helped boost them, rung by rung, to”

45. “The study showed women who were slower to smile in corporate life were perceived as more credible." As Missy talked, I began to think about history-making women like Margaret Thatcher, Indira Gandhi, Golda Meir, Madeleine Albright, and other powerful women of their ilk. Not one was known for her quick smile. Missy continued, "The study went on to say a big, warm smile is an asset. But only when it comes a little slower, because then it has more credibility." From that moment on,”

46. “There are two kinds of people in this life: Those who walk into a room and say,

47. “You see, nobody gets to the top alone. Over the years, people who seem to "have it all" have captured the hearts and conquered the minds of hundreds of others who helped boost them, rung by rung, to the top of whatever corporate or social ladder they chose.”

48. “Technique 52: Carrier pigeon kudos People immediately grow a beak and metamorphosize themselves into carrier pigeons when there’s bad news. (It’s called gossip.) Instead, become a carrier of good news and kudos. Whenever you hear something complimentary about someone, fly to them with the compliment. Your fans may not posthumously stuff you and put you on display in a museum like Stumpy Joe. But everyone loves the Carrier Pigeon of kind thoughts.”

49. “Similarity breeds attraction. When you delay revealing your similarity, or let them discover it, it has much more punch.”

50. Don’t flash an immediate smile when you greet someone, as though anyone who walked into your line of sight would be the beneficiary. Instead, look at the other person’s face for a second. Pause. Soak in their persona. Then let a big, warm, responsive smile flood over your face and overflow into your eyes. It will engulf the recipient like a warm wave. The split-second delay convinces people your flooding smile is genuine and only for them.

51. “Create a sense of intimacy with someone even if you’ve met just moments before. Scramble the signals in their psyche by skipping conversational levels one and two and cutting right to levels three and four. Elicit intimate feelings by using the magic words ‘we,’ ‘us,’ and ‘our.’”

52. “Before jumping blindly into a bevy of bookbinders or a drove of dentists, find out what the hot issues are in their fields. Every industry has burning concerns the outside world knows little about. Ask your informant to bare the industry buzz. Then, to heat the conversation up, push those buttons.”

53. “How to Make People Want to Start a Conversation with You Singles proficient at meeting potential sweethearts without the benefit of introduction (in the vernacular, making a "pickup"), have developed a deliciously devious technique that works equally well for social or corporate networking purposes. The technique requires no exceptional skill on your part, only the courage to sport a simple visual prop called a "Whatzit." What’s a Whatzit? A Whatzit is anything you wear or carry that is unusual—a unique pin, an interesting purse, a strange tie, or an amusing hat. A Whatzit is any object that draws people’s attention and inspires them to approach you and ask, "Uh, what’s that?" Your Whatzit can be as subtle or overt as your personality and the occasion permit.”

54. “Train your body to act confidently so your mind follows suit. This is what the experts recommend. It’s a lot easier to whip your body into shape than your brain. You know all the basic stuff: Stand tall, look people in the eye, smile and speak up. Start practising your CONFIDENCE BOOSTERs on the least intimidating people. Work your way up to the most difficult.”

55. “Let's hear it again!" The sweetest sound your conversation partner can hear from your lips when you're talking with a group of people is "Tell them about the time you . . .”

56. “When you act as though you like someone, you start to really like them.”

57. “Ask the important people in your life what they would like engraved on their tombstone. Chisel it into your memory but don’t mention it again. Then, when the moment is right to say ‘I appreciate you,’ fill the blanks with the very words they gave you weeks earlier. You can take people’s breath away when you feed their deepest self-image to them in a compliment. ‘At last, they say to themselves, ‘someone who loves me for who I truly am.’”

58. “Ask your prospect’s feelings on something the way you would query a friend: ‘How do you feel about the new governor?’ Then use the pronoun we when discussing anything that might affect the two of you. ‘Do you think we’re going to prosper during his administration?’”

59. The study showed women who were slower to smile in corporate life were perceived as more credible. As Missy talked, I began to think about history-making women like Margaret Thatcher, Indira Gandhi, Golda Meir, Madeleine Albright, and other powerful women of their ilk. Not one was known for her quick smile. Missy continued, "The study went on to say a big, warm smile is an asset. But only when it comes a little slower, because then it has more credibility." From that moment on,"

60. “A Killer Compliment is not ‘I like your tie’ or ‘You’re a very nice person.’ It’s more like ‘What exquisite eyes you have’ (very specific) or ‘You have a wonderful air of honesty about you’ (very personal).”

61. “I always try to turn the spotlight on the other person." Truly confident people often do this. They know they grow more by listening than talking.”

62. “Let compliments or concerned questions boomerang right back to the giver. Like the French, quickly murmur something that expresses, ‘That’s very kind of you.’ Don’t just say ‘thank you.’ If she says, “I like those shoes,” you say, ‘Oh, I’m so happy you told me. I just got them.’ He says, ‘You did a really good job on this project,’ you say, ‘Oh, that’s so nice of you to say. I appreciate your positive feedback.’”

63. “An added benefit to the Hello Old Friend technique is it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. When you act as though you like someone, you start to really like them.”

64. “You can also Boomerang the good feelings back when people ask you a question about your family, a project, an event, or anything that shows they are interested in you. Your colleague asks, ‘How was your vacation in Hawaii?’ You answer, ‘Oh, you remembered I went to Hawaii! It was great, thanks!’ Your boss asks, ‘Are you over your cold now?’ You answer, ‘I appreciate your concern. I feel much better now.’”

65. “People perk up when they hear their own name. Use it more often on the phone than you would in person to keep their attention. Your caller’s name recreates the eye contact, the caress you might give in person.”

66. “A tiny body-language blooper at the outset of a relationship may mean you never make a hit with that person.”

67. “Why didn’t you tell me?” “I was enjoying hearing about ____ so much, I was afraid you’d stop if I told you.”

68. take consolation from the fact that the brighter the individual, the more he or she detests small talk.

69. “80% of your listener’s first impression has nothing to do with your words. Almost anything you say at first is fine. No matter how prosaic the text, an emphatic mood, a positive demeanor, and passionate delivery make you sound exciting.”

70. “Never be left speechless again. Like a parrot, simply repeat the last few words your conversation partner says. That puts the ball right back in his or her court, and then all you need to do is listen.”

71. “I regret I can’t make the meeting today”

72. “Take long brisk strides wherever you walk at work and look like you have a mission to accomplish. Keep your destination in mind, an concentrate on what you will do when you get there. Look directed. Look determined. Look dynamic!”

73. “The more you think back on an event, the worse it gets in your memory. The best way to remember something accurately is to write it down before your cynical imagination gets carried away.”

74. “If your spouse just cooked a great meal, ‘Wow you’re the best chef in town.’ Just before going out together, ‘Gee, honey, you look great.’ After a long drive, ‘You did it! It must have been tiring.’ With your kids, ‘Hey gang, great job cleaning up your room.’”

75. “grow more by listening than talking.”

76. “Stand confidently in a clearing, not in a corner. Position yourself near a doorway since everyone must pass your way at some point in the evening.”

77. “Make it a habit to get on a dual track while talking. Express yourself, but keep a keen eye on how your listener is reacting to what you’re saying. Then plan your moves accordingly. People will say you pick up on everything. You never miss a trick.”

78. “If you flash everybody the same smile, it loses value. When meeting groups of people, grace each with a distinct smile. Let your smiles grow out of the beauty you find in each new face. If one person is more important to you than the tohers, reserve an especially big, flooding smile just for them.”

79. “Look up some common words you use every day — like smart, nice, pretty, or good — in the thesaurus. Then, like slipping your feet into a new pair of shoes, slip your tongue into a few new words to see how they fit. If you like them, start making permanent replacements. Remember, only 50 words makes the difference between a rich, creative vocabulary and an average, middle-of-the-road one. Substitute a word a day for two months and you’ll be in the verbally elite.”

80. “When you’re traveling somewhere and find yourself with a group of people who are all speaking a language unknown to you, just imagine them to be a group of your old friends. Everything is fine except they momentarily forgot how to speak English. In spite of the fact that you won’t understand a thing, your whole body still responds with congeniality and acceptance. I’ve used this technique in Europe an sometimes my friends who live there tell me their European colleagues say I am the friendliest American they’ve ever met. Yet, we’d never spoken a word between us!”

81. “Don’t flash an immediate smile when you greet someone, as though anyone who walked into your line of sight would be the beneficiary. Instead, look at the other person’s face for a second. Pause. Soak in their persona. Then let a big, warm, responsive smile flood over your face and overflow into your eyes. It will engulf the recipient like a warm wave. The split-second delay convinces people your flooding smile is genuine and only for them.”

82. “Don’t directly ask someone what they do for work. This could make a stay-at-home parent or someone who isn’t proud of their job feel uncomfortable.” “How do you find out what someone does for a living? Say, ‘How do you spend most of your time?’”

83. ‘Ahh, there you are.”

84. “Which request do you think your boss is going to react to more positively? ‘Can I take Friday off, Boss?’ or ‘Boss, can you do without me Friday?’ In the first case, Boss had to translate ‘Can I take Friday off?’ into ‘Can I do without this employee Friday?’ That’s an extra thought process. However, in the second case, you did the Boss’ thinking for her. Your new wording made managing without you a matter of pride for Boss.”

85. “Suppose you’re in a meeting and a colleague says something that you know is the sticky brown substance that bulls excrete.”

86. “Don’t answer the phone with an ‘I’m just soo happy all the time’ attitude. Answer warmly, crisply, and professionally. Then, after you hear who is calling, let a huge smile of happiness engulf your entire face and spill into your voice. Say ‘Oh my goodness, I’m so glad you called.’ You make your caller feel as though your giant warm fuzzy smile is reserved for them.”

87. “Example letter: ‘Dear [Boss], I know how important customer service is to an org like yours. This letter is to commend [Name]. They are an excellent example of an [Title] who gives exceptional service. [Name of Business] continues to have my business thanks in part to the service given by [Name].’”

88. “Never let the phrase thank you stand naked and alone. 'Thank you for being such a good customer.' 'Thank you for being so loving.”

89. “Your eyes are personal grenades that have the power to detonate people’s emotions.”

90. “If you’re not comfortable mentioning someone’s job during the intro, mention their hobby or talent. ‘Leil, I’d like you to meet Gilbert. Gilbert’s gift is sculpting. He makes beautiful wax carvings.’”

91. “Step One: In a quiet moment chatting your friend, loved one, or business partner, tell them that the other day you were reading about tombstones. ‘The piece was about,’ you say, ‘what people fantasize will be inscribed above their grave after they die.’ You learned that people want the quality they are most proud of etched in stone. Example: Here lies Diane. She was a caring woman. Or here lies Billy. By golly, he could make people laugh. Step Two: Reveal to your partner what you’d like carved on your tombstone. Step Three: Ask the person what they’re most proud of and what they’d like on their tombstone.”

92. “Professional communicators consciously squelch any signs anyone could mistake for shiftiness. They fix a constant gaze on the listener. They don’t loosen their collar when it’s hot or blink because it’s sandy. They don’t wipe away tiny perspiration beads in public or shield their eyes from the sun. They suffer because they know fidgeting undermines credibility.”

93. “Try saying, ‘You’ve obviously been well’ when you see someone you haven’t seen for a while.”

94. “Controlled studies show that partygoers are more comfortable approaching people who stand with an open body, arms uncrossed and hanging at their sides, legs slightly separated, a slight smile on their faces.”

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96. “Listen to your conversation partner’s every word for clues to their preferred topic. The evidence is bound to slip out. Then spring on that subject like a sleuth on a slip of the tongue.”

97. “I always try to turn the spotlight on the other person." The longer you keep it shining away from you, the more interesting he or she finds you.”

98. “Start every appropriate sentence with you. It immediately grabs your listener’s attention. It gets a more positive response because it pushes the pride button and saves them having to translate it into ‘me’ terms. When you sprinkle you liberally throughout your conversations, your listeners find it irresistible.”

99. “The moment someone looks at you, he or she experiences a massive hit, the impact of which lays the groundwork for the entire relationship. Just give 'em great posture, a heads-up look, a confident smile, and a direct gaze.”

100. ‘Well, here I am!’ And those who walk in and say,

101. “Like an air traffic controller, track the tiniest details of your conversation partners’ lives. Refer to them in your conversation like a major news story. It creates a powerful sense of intimacy. When you invoke the last major or minor event in anyone’s life, it confirms the deep conviction that they are an old-style hero around whom the world revolves, the world’s most important person. And people love you for recognizing their stardom.”

102. “Be a human magnet. When standing at a gathering, arrange your body in an open position — especially your arms and hands. People instinctively gravitate toward open palms and wrists seductively arranged in the ‘come hither’ position. They shy away from knuckles in the ‘get lost’ position. Use your wrists and palms to say, ‘I have nothing to hide’ ‘I accept you and what you’re saying,’ or ‘I find you sexy.’”

103. “Say "I help people moving into our area find the right home.”

104. “Do you usually go hiking? This weekend, take a tennis lesson. Do you bowl? Leave that to your buddies this time. Why? Because it will give you conversational fodder for the rest of your life.”

105. “Do the thing you fear most and the death of fear is certain.”

106. “Keep good eye contact.”

107. “take consolation from the fact that the brighter the individual, the more he or she detests small talk.”

108. “Cool communicators allow everyone around them the pleasurable myth of being above commonplace bloopers and embarrassing biological functions. They simply don’t notice their comrades’ minor spills, slips, fumbles, and faux pas. Big winners never gape at another’s gaffes.”

109. “Never let the phrase ‘thank you’ stand alone. From A to Z, always follow it up with ‘for’: from ‘Thank you for asking’ to ‘Thank you for zipping me up.’”

110. “Throw a few comments into your conversation that presuppose something positive about the person you’re talking with.”

111. “You see, nobody gets to the top alone. Over the years, people who seem to ‘have it all’ have captured the hearts and conquered the minds of hundreds of others who helped boost them, rung by rung, to the top of whatever corporate or social ladder they chose.”

112. “Your eyes are personal grenades that have the power to detonate people's emotions.”

113. “What super-sure looks like A multitude of fascinating factors come under the ‘looking confident ‘umbrella. There isn’t space here to explore the thousands of subtle signs that signal confidence. I cover them in my book How to Talk to Anyone. However, here are a few hints to tide you over. Self-assureds do the following things instinctively. You can do them consciously until they become second nature. 1. When you are at a gathering, do not stand close to the wall or by the snacks. Walk directly to the dead-centre of the room. That’s where all the important people instinctively stand. 2. When you are going through a large door or open double doors, don’t walk on one side. Walk straight through the middle. It signifies confidence. 3. At a restaurant, unless there is an established hierarchy, go for the seat at the end of the table facing the door. That is the power position. 4. Sit in the highest chair in a meeting or on the arm of the couch – but not higher than the boss! 5. Make larger, more fluid movements. Confident people’s bodies occupy more space. Shys take as little as possible, as if to say, ‘Excuse me for taking up this much of the earth.’ 6. Keep your hands away from your face and never fidget. 7. When you agree with someone, nod your head up from neutral (jaw parallel to the floor), not down. 8. When walking towards someone and passing, be the last person to break eye-contact. 9. For men: Don’t strut like a bantam rooster. But to look like a leader, swing your arms more significantly when you walk. When you are seated, put one arm up on the back of a chair. Occasionally lean back with your arms up and your hands behind your head. 10. For women: To seem self-assured, square your body towards the person you’re talking to and stand a tad closer. Naturally, give a big smile but let it come ever so slightly so it looks sincere, not nervous.”

114. “One of the most powerful forms of tracking is remembering anniversaries of people’s personal achievements. Did your boss get promoted one year ago today? Did your client go public? How much more memorable than a birthday card to send a one-year congrats note.”

115. “I will get it done this week barring any big obstacles” shows you have more assurance in your abilities.”

116. “Spend time with people you choose, not just those who choose you. Be choosey in who you pick. But don't wait to be the choosee.”

117. “Whenever your conversation really counts, let your nose itch, your ear tingle, or your foot prickle. Do not fidget, twitch, wiggle, squirm, or scratch. And above all, keep your paws away from your puss. Hand motions near your face and all fidgeting can give your listener the gut feeling you’re fibbing or something isn’t right.”

118. “Just give 'em great posture, a heads-up look, a confident smile, and a direct gaze." It's the ideal image for somebody who's a Somebody.”

119. “How do you put people at ease? By convincing them they are OK and that the two of you are similar.”

120. How to Make People Want to Start a Conversation with You Singles proficient at meeting potential sweethearts without the benefit of introduction (in the vernacular, making a pickup"), have developed a deliciously devious technique that works equally well for social or corporate networking purposes. The technique requires no exceptional skill on your part, only the courage to sport a simple visual prop called a "Whatzit." What’s a Whatzit? A Whatzit is anything you wear or carry that is unusual—a unique pin, an interesting purse, a strange tie, or an amusing hat. A Whatzit is any object that draws people’s attention and inspires them to approach you and ask, "Uh, what’s that?" Your Whatzit can be as subtle or overt as your personality and the occasion permit."

121. “Instead of hitting your head in surprise, say, “What a surprise!’ or “You don’t say!’ In place of a look of admiration, try ‘That was wise of you!’ or “You’re no dummy!’ Instead of smiling, say ‘Oh wow, that’s funny!’”

122. “Stealthingly sneak praise into the parenthetical part of your sentence. Tell your 66 year old uncle, ‘Anyone as fit as you would have zipped right up those stairs, but boy, was I out of breath.’ Tell a colleague: ‘Because you’re so knowledgeable in contract law, you would have read between the lines, but stupidly, I signed it.”

123. “When introducing people, don’t throw out an unbaited hook and stand there grinning like a big clam, leaving the newlyweds to flutter their fins and fish for a topic. Bait the conversational hook to get them in the swim of things. Then you’re free to stay or float on to the next networking opportunity.”

124. “So how do you find out what someone does for a living? (I thought you’d never ask.) You simply practice the following eight words. All together now: "How . . . do . . . you . . . spend . . . most . . . of . . . your . . . time?”

125. “Before opening your mouth, take a ‘voice sample’ of your listener to detect their state of mind. Take a ‘psychic photograph’ of the expression to see if your listener looks buyoant, bored, or blitzed. If you ever want to bring people around to your thoughts, you must match their mood and voice tone, if only for a moment.”

126. “Do humanity and yourself a favor. Never, ever, give just a one-sentence response to the question, “Where are you from?” Give the asker some fuel for his tank, some fodder for his trough.”

127. “Think of yourself as the star of a personal radio drama every time you pick up the phone. If you want to come across as engaging as you are, you must turn your smile into sound, your nods into noise, and all your gestures into something your listeners can hear. Then punch up the whole act 30%!”

128. “Visualization works best when you feel totally relaxed. Only when you have a calm state of mind can you get clear, vivid images. Do your visualization in the quiet of your home or car before leaving for the party, the convention, or the big-deal meeting. See it all in your mind’s eye ahead of time.”

129. “The human brain, instinctively, and unfailingly translates everything into terms of "How does that affect ME?" Start every appropriate sentence with you.”

130. “Suppose you are selling a car to a young mother who tells you she is concerned about safety because she has a ‘toddler.’ Don’t use whatever word you call your kids. Don’t even say ‘child-protection lock,’ which was in your sales manual. Tell your prospect, ‘No toddler can open the window of the driver’s control device’ and call it a ‘toddler-protection lock.’”

131. “The first time you hit me, I must have been four. A hand, a flash, a reckoning. My mouth a blaze of touch. The time I tried to teach you to read the way Mrs. Callahan taught me, my lips to your ear, my hand on yours, the words moving…

132. “When you meet a stranger you’d like to make less a stranger, search for some special moment you shared during your first encounter. Then find a few words that reprieve the laugh, the warm smile, the good feelings the two of you felt. Now, just like old friends, you have a history together, an Instant History.

133. “Don’t make your colleagues, friends, and loved ones look at you and silently say, ‘Haven’t I been pretty good today?’ Let them know how much you appreciate them by caressing them with verbal Little Strokes like ‘Well done,’ ‘Nice job,’ and ‘Cool!’”

134. “OK, we’ll make it another time,”

135. “If someone in the elevator says shyly and in a dismayed tone, ‘This elevator is slow,’ don’t loudly jump in with a ton of factoids about elevators. Simply quietly agree with them, at least at first.”

136. “the more eye contact, the more positive feelings.”

137. “Gush to someone who is doing you a favor or serving you well, ‘Wow, you’re great! What’s your boss’ name? Your supervisor should get a letter of congrats for hiring you. You really try harder for your customers.’ Don’t just ask ‘What’s your boss’ name?’ because this could make them nervous.”

138. “3 His wisdom for the ages said success lay in smiling, showing interest in other people, and making them feel good about themselves.”

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140. “At the end of the conversation, look the individual right in the eye. Say his or her name and proceed to curl all ten toes with the Killer Compliment.”

141. “Don’t flash an immediate smile as you greet someone, as though anyone who walked into your line of sight would be the beneficiary. Instead, look at the other person’s face for a second. Pause. Soak in their persona. Then let a big, warm, responsive smile flood over your face and overflow into your eyes. It will engulf the recipient like a warm wave. The split-second delay convinces people your flooding smile is genuine and only for them.”

142. “Studies show mental rehearsal helps weekend athletes sharpen their golf, their tennis, their running, whatever their favourite activity. Experts agree if you see the pictures, hear the sounds, and feel the movements of your body in your mind before you do the activity, the effect is powerful.”

143. “If you’re really rushed, tell me you’re red. Then I won’t bother you now, but we’ll find another time to talk when you’re more relaxed.” • “If you say yellow, it means you’re busy, but if it’s quick, we can deal with it now.” • “And if you say green, it means, ‘Sure, I’ve got time. Go ahead.”

144. “Another way to warm hearts and win friends is to become a carrier pigeon of news items that might interest the recipient. Call, mail, or email people with info they might find interesting. If your friend is a furniture designer and you see an article about furniture, send it to him. A relevant clipping is the big winner’s way of saying, ‘I’m thinking about you and your interests.’”

145. “All folks have a Big Ben in their brain that determines how receptive they are going to be to you and your ideas. When you mess with their internal clock, they won't listen to you. No matter how interesting your information, or how pleasant your call, bad timing means bad results for you.”

146. “Whenever you are talking with a stranger you’d like to make part of your professional or personal future, search for one attractive, specific, and unique quality they have. At the end of the conversation, look the individual right in the eye. Say their name and proceed to curl all 10 toes with the Killer Compliment.”

147. “great posture, a heads-up look, a confident smile, and a direct gaze." The ideal image for somebody who's a Somebody.”

148. “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”

149. A wise politician, when asked if he were for or against Prohibition, answered: If by alcohol, you mean the dangerous drink which destroys families, than I am fully for Prohibition. But if, by alcohol, you mean noble drink which promotes good fellowship and makes every meal a pleasure, then I am against it.

150. “Whenever your friend agrees to a favor, allow your generous buddy time to reflish the joy of their beneficence before you make them pay the piper. At least 24 hours.”

151. “The word ‘we’ fosters togetherness. It gives a subliminal feeling of ‘you and me against the cold, cold world.’ When you prematurely say ‘we’ or ‘us’ to strangers, it hints you are already friends. At a party, you might say to someone standing behind you in the buffet line: ‘They really laid out a nice spread for us’ or ‘We’re going to get bloated if we let ourselves enjoy all of this.’”

152. “The exact moment that two humans lay eyes on each other has awesome potency.”

153. “When you arrive at the gathering, stop dramatically in the doorway. Then s-l-o-w-l-y survey the situation. Let your eyes travel back and forth like a SWAT team ready in a heartbeat to wipe out anything that moves. See who is talking to whom and select a few targets of who you’d like to talk to.”